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Wednesday, 30 November 2016
Dear Yazid,
A year ago I posted a picture of what I wrote in Arabic, saying 'maktub'. And a year after, I'm getting married to the man who posted this same phrase on the same month as I posted it. And I guess it's no coincidence at all. We never met, but we were praying fr each other: 'whoever u are, know that my heart is not for anyone, but you.' And then we appeared to each other's life. And right when it happened, Allah gave us the strong instinct that we might be fated for one another. Because, we told each other that there won't be any hesitation and none of us do question about our fate. When we fall fr one another, I istighfar. I've prayed to only open up my heart fr my future Husband, and my love just keeps growing more for him. And then I told myself, 'maybe he is my future Husband.' So, within weeks, we decided to get our nikah, soon, just like how those pious men and women done before us. We love each other fr the sake of Allah, so it will be in a way that pleases us, and more importantly, pleases Him. Throughout the planning, we will explore the world, and we will explore each other. Each step we take on our journey, will be a step closer to each other's heart. Though we never went thrgh being in a rs state, we will still have our dates like how bf/gf do, and I'm sure it'll be even more exciting if it's with my fiancé and future husband. We'll visit the places we've never been, and have a bucket list of things to do throughout our journey. Everyday will start with a smile, and every night will end with a kiss. Maybe people won't understand this, maybe they'll think it's silly. They won't understand that I need my love for you to be halal, I need it to be so good that I'm proud of how I love you. When I fall in love w you, expect it to happen aft marriage. We will pray for Him to fill our hearts w constant love and sincerity fr each other. Whatever we do, it will be done in the name of God, n whatever we do will be to make us better, together, in Sha Allah. We will remind each other to pray each day. You will wake me up fr Fajr before u go to work, and I will wake u up frm ur nap fr maghrib aft I come back home frm work. When I make breakfast, you'll know that I love when you come up behind me, and put your arms around me, and tell me good morning with a gentle kiss on my cheek. You'll be good to my parents, and my Sister and brothers will love u. They'll look at you, and then look at me, and say, Ma Sha Allah. When I fall in love with you, and you fall in love with me, I hope you know what you're getting yourself into. I'll be good to you, I'll do everything I know how to do just to make you happy. But I expect the same and nothing less. And when I fall in love you, you must know the rules of how serious I am with you.
Wednesday, 8 June 2016
Thoughts about early marriage
In our modern society, most of us, even the older generations would be against early marriage. Early marriage in a way that we are either too young for that, or it is too early for the both of the parties to settle down due to the period of time they both known each other.
Why? Because all of us are worried that we are not able to commit especially on finances and the extra responsibility we all have to bear. Another reason is because they fear that flaws are revealed and that they could not accommodate to each other's lifestyle. The last reason could be because they are too young to get married. Now lets look at this reason one at a time:
1. All of us are worried that we are not able to commit especially on finances and the extra responsibility we all have to bear.
Islam highly recommends Muslims to have an early marriage. Even those who feel they would not be able to bear the extra expenses they have to commit for the family, they are strongly urged to repose their faith to Allah SWT, for He is the Giver of Sustenance (Rezeki) and go for an early marriage, which leads to our first question: "If you are not ready, why did you choose to take a step ahead with your partner?" This has become a main issue in our parents, because they fear that the man could not afford to take care of their daughter's well being. In Islamic perspective, it is a very sad case that parents avoid looking at it in a different perspective. The boundaries between modern and religious laws have become blurred, which resulted in the justification of practise.
'When you know both partners are fated to be together, you get the Nikah done. You delay them, you are sinful.'- Ismail ibn Musa Menk. What does he mean by that when our purpose of delaying the marriage is good? It is simply to ensure that both parties do not fall into sins. If a father calls himself a guardian to his daughter, then it is one of his duties to make sure she does not fall into sin by laying out his absurd demands of a man to help her find for a proper husband. Filled by love of the Dunya, many families will only choose to marry their daughter to a rich man with a PhD, or the least, a Diploma holder with a stable job. Pity any men who are not able to meet these requirements. Whatever status they have, whoever they came from, all men have the right to get married if they have attained the age of fifteen and baligh. Apart from that, a husband has to be Rashid and a wife Rashidah so that the responsibilities of married life are sensibly discharged. Also, some families place a huge restrictions on their daughters, which creates a terrible barrier in getting young woman married, as it makes it impossible for them to find someone that is perfect in her family's eyes. Surely, we all have flaws. A man is a mixture of two: both angelic and earthly creations, both high and low. Enormous dowries is another issue that is fitnah and it has been condemned in the Hadith. The Prophet (s) said: "The best of women...are those who ask for low dowries." and Imam as-Sadiq states: "The blessed of women are those who ask for small living expenses, and the evil of them are those who are demanding in terms of living expenses."
Asking for huge dowries are haraam, and what's interesting is that the daughter will not have any interest in asking for large dowry, instead she will ask for something extremely small, or even want to wave it altogether. The dowries will only exist among her family. This is for the sake of their appearance in the community. Some families would even go to the extend of making their daughter choose between her husband-to-be and her family, where they will make any manners of threat about what will happen if she choose to carry on with the marriage without their blessings. Indeed, who are we that our family must demand for huge dowries when we're a slave to Allah as well? When I think about 'relationship', I would always refer to this citation:
'The Prophet (s) said in a khutbah: "Jibra'il came to me from the Subtle and Aware one [Allah (swt)], and said: "Indeed, virgin girls are like fruit on a tree. When you take the fruit from a tree, then you do not have to fear that the sun will spoil it or that the wind will scatter it away. Similar is the case when a women is taken in the way that they are taken [meaning marriage]. There is no remedy for this problem except that they take a husband, and if they do not, then one will have to fear that they will become corrupted."'
2. They fear that flaws are revealed and that they could not accommodate to each other's lifestyle.
The Messenger of Islam (S.A.W.) said, "Do not marry a woman for the following four reasons: Wealth, beauty, ancestry and lust. It is obligatory upon you to marry a woman on account of her religion." (Jaame ul Akhbar). He has also prohibited his followers from marrying a beautiful woman from a disgraceful background. To get a 'perfect' man in Islamic views, one has to understand the meaning of what is meant by a perfect man. If we do not know and learn the Islamic definition of a perfect human being, we cannot become a perfect Muslim ourselves. There are two ways of knowing if one is a perfect person: one is to refer to our Holy Quran, and the other on our Hadiths to explain the best practising of a perfect Muslims. This means that one should know his personality, and not him as a person (his family background, his birthdate, his looks, etc). It is a mistake to view that the spirit is dependant on our physical looks or body.
3. They are too young to get married.
What families are more concerned of is their daughter's education and work life, than their spiritual life. They fear that when they marry at an early age, their children will not be able to complete their education. Even if this is true, the explanation is not valid to get the Nikah done for a 'halal' relationship, as this will put more pressure in both parties to fornicate. The truth is, it is not true when girls are to get married, they will somehow fail in life if they were to get married at an early age. One can balance the demands of their marital life as well as her educational/ professional life, in fact they are encouraged to do so. Commitments and responsibilities wise have already been explained on my first reason. Since puberty marks the onset of developing sexual urges, the messenger of Islam (S.A.W.) encouraged young people to get married. According to Hadith volume 7, Book 62, Number 74, he said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry...". The interpretation of the Prophet's advice did not mention any specific age, but marriage partners are supposed to have reached mental maturity. However, puberty does not equates to maturity. Books of Islamic law can be referred to for exact details on physical and mental maturity.
However, as an individual who does not have the mindset of marriage, one should definitely not force themselves for early marriage. This is just to convince young people about their doubts on settling down. Surely, Islam is not a limited religion; there is no restrictions in any case in which a human get suffer from it.
Hazrat Muhammad (S.A.W.) said "O young people! Let those of you who afford marriage get married as it will help them lower their gaze and protect their chastity.
And for Those who don't afford it, they may fast for it will curb the sexual desire." (Al-Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud).
Hence, when one is ready and portrays enough mature level that one can decide for themselves and take care of children, then both should get married without delay.
Why? Because all of us are worried that we are not able to commit especially on finances and the extra responsibility we all have to bear. Another reason is because they fear that flaws are revealed and that they could not accommodate to each other's lifestyle. The last reason could be because they are too young to get married. Now lets look at this reason one at a time:
1. All of us are worried that we are not able to commit especially on finances and the extra responsibility we all have to bear.
Islam highly recommends Muslims to have an early marriage. Even those who feel they would not be able to bear the extra expenses they have to commit for the family, they are strongly urged to repose their faith to Allah SWT, for He is the Giver of Sustenance (Rezeki) and go for an early marriage, which leads to our first question: "If you are not ready, why did you choose to take a step ahead with your partner?" This has become a main issue in our parents, because they fear that the man could not afford to take care of their daughter's well being. In Islamic perspective, it is a very sad case that parents avoid looking at it in a different perspective. The boundaries between modern and religious laws have become blurred, which resulted in the justification of practise.
'When you know both partners are fated to be together, you get the Nikah done. You delay them, you are sinful.'- Ismail ibn Musa Menk. What does he mean by that when our purpose of delaying the marriage is good? It is simply to ensure that both parties do not fall into sins. If a father calls himself a guardian to his daughter, then it is one of his duties to make sure she does not fall into sin by laying out his absurd demands of a man to help her find for a proper husband. Filled by love of the Dunya, many families will only choose to marry their daughter to a rich man with a PhD, or the least, a Diploma holder with a stable job. Pity any men who are not able to meet these requirements. Whatever status they have, whoever they came from, all men have the right to get married if they have attained the age of fifteen and baligh. Apart from that, a husband has to be Rashid and a wife Rashidah so that the responsibilities of married life are sensibly discharged. Also, some families place a huge restrictions on their daughters, which creates a terrible barrier in getting young woman married, as it makes it impossible for them to find someone that is perfect in her family's eyes. Surely, we all have flaws. A man is a mixture of two: both angelic and earthly creations, both high and low. Enormous dowries is another issue that is fitnah and it has been condemned in the Hadith. The Prophet (s) said: "The best of women...are those who ask for low dowries." and Imam as-Sadiq states: "The blessed of women are those who ask for small living expenses, and the evil of them are those who are demanding in terms of living expenses."
Asking for huge dowries are haraam, and what's interesting is that the daughter will not have any interest in asking for large dowry, instead she will ask for something extremely small, or even want to wave it altogether. The dowries will only exist among her family. This is for the sake of their appearance in the community. Some families would even go to the extend of making their daughter choose between her husband-to-be and her family, where they will make any manners of threat about what will happen if she choose to carry on with the marriage without their blessings. Indeed, who are we that our family must demand for huge dowries when we're a slave to Allah as well? When I think about 'relationship', I would always refer to this citation:
'The Prophet (s) said in a khutbah: "Jibra'il came to me from the Subtle and Aware one [Allah (swt)], and said: "Indeed, virgin girls are like fruit on a tree. When you take the fruit from a tree, then you do not have to fear that the sun will spoil it or that the wind will scatter it away. Similar is the case when a women is taken in the way that they are taken [meaning marriage]. There is no remedy for this problem except that they take a husband, and if they do not, then one will have to fear that they will become corrupted."'
2. They fear that flaws are revealed and that they could not accommodate to each other's lifestyle.
The Messenger of Islam (S.A.W.) said, "Do not marry a woman for the following four reasons: Wealth, beauty, ancestry and lust. It is obligatory upon you to marry a woman on account of her religion." (Jaame ul Akhbar). He has also prohibited his followers from marrying a beautiful woman from a disgraceful background. To get a 'perfect' man in Islamic views, one has to understand the meaning of what is meant by a perfect man. If we do not know and learn the Islamic definition of a perfect human being, we cannot become a perfect Muslim ourselves. There are two ways of knowing if one is a perfect person: one is to refer to our Holy Quran, and the other on our Hadiths to explain the best practising of a perfect Muslims. This means that one should know his personality, and not him as a person (his family background, his birthdate, his looks, etc). It is a mistake to view that the spirit is dependant on our physical looks or body.
3. They are too young to get married.
What families are more concerned of is their daughter's education and work life, than their spiritual life. They fear that when they marry at an early age, their children will not be able to complete their education. Even if this is true, the explanation is not valid to get the Nikah done for a 'halal' relationship, as this will put more pressure in both parties to fornicate. The truth is, it is not true when girls are to get married, they will somehow fail in life if they were to get married at an early age. One can balance the demands of their marital life as well as her educational/ professional life, in fact they are encouraged to do so. Commitments and responsibilities wise have already been explained on my first reason. Since puberty marks the onset of developing sexual urges, the messenger of Islam (S.A.W.) encouraged young people to get married. According to Hadith volume 7, Book 62, Number 74, he said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry...". The interpretation of the Prophet's advice did not mention any specific age, but marriage partners are supposed to have reached mental maturity. However, puberty does not equates to maturity. Books of Islamic law can be referred to for exact details on physical and mental maturity.
However, as an individual who does not have the mindset of marriage, one should definitely not force themselves for early marriage. This is just to convince young people about their doubts on settling down. Surely, Islam is not a limited religion; there is no restrictions in any case in which a human get suffer from it.
Hazrat Muhammad (S.A.W.) said "O young people! Let those of you who afford marriage get married as it will help them lower their gaze and protect their chastity.
And for Those who don't afford it, they may fast for it will curb the sexual desire." (Al-Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud).
Hence, when one is ready and portrays enough mature level that one can decide for themselves and take care of children, then both should get married without delay.
Sunday, 5 June 2016
My start to #whatnurindraws
My first draft to this floral pattern. I hate how I took a picture of this. Didn't thought that this would be up on my blog, but yea. An ugly picture of my first drawing. -.-
Here's to my final draft!
This post can actually be the reason why I'm up for calligraphy because this happened to be my very first drawing.
So one day, I was bored at home and I decided to do some doodling. I didn't thought that I could do an excellent job in drawing because it has never come across my mind that I would live my life revolving around art. Firstly because I hated art back when I was in secondary school. I thought it was a waste of time and a risk to my O level results (laughs). I never touched any art tools since then, until now I decided to get back to it again.
As I was scribbling through, I had a good feeling that it would turn out nice (I had to praise myself for this). And when it's all done, I told myself 'Yes that's it. I think I wanna continue doing this.' and that's how I started to continue my passion of drawing, or rather calli. Only because I was bored, and I definitely didn't expect anything from it. I accidentally found my passion through doodling.
People have been complaining and questioning why don't they have a passion or talent to anything. Well, the truth is I was one of them. I had two traits- one who loves to question everything, and the other was to be afraid to go after what I want. I never looked down on art students. To me, they are an awesome bunch of people who are full of creativity. I do wish I could be like them, but the fact that one of my traits had to take over me, I resist myself from being one. Until one day, I decided to uncover my less obvious interest which until now, I do not know what makes me motivated to do it.
And as I go about doodling more drawings, I was exposed to recitations of Quran and the language of it; Arab. As I recite, I observed and learnt how the words are actually written. So one day, I decided to study the meaning of certain words through translation and YouTube videos. I started off drawing to only Quranic inscriptions, such as Bismillah, Shahadah, and various Attributes of Allah SWT. And as I learn to understand the meaning (somehow) and the units of proportion in Thuluth calligraphy, I took a step ahead to do Zoomorphic Calligraphy which was mostly a poem taken from the sites. Calligraphy is rather a 'heavy' art to follow, because a missing or an additional letter or sign to your inscriptions could have an additional or lack of meaning to your whole piece.
Indeed, Islamic Calligraphy is a precious gift of Allah to Muslims. It is obvious that Muslims from whatever race and background, location or climate, depend themselves a lot on the Arabic letters to be a good Muslim. They depend on the Arabic letters to recite the Holy Quran, the sayings of the prophet Muhammad, and beyond that, to be a part of their daily life.
Updates as @ 6th May 2016 (I promise this is not POA)
Assalammualaikum!
Ok the only reason why I'm not updating my blog is because I broke my surface's charger (Do not, I REPEAT DO NOT ask me how). It's the only gadget I used to update my blog hence that huge gap from my current post to the last one.
Anyhoots, just a few updates from me. I'm left with another second half of the year til I finally graduate from school! If only I have that 'Applause' sign so y'all know when to give me your applause. Hahaha I'm kidding. Erm.... future plans remain vague to me but somehow I guess I'm furthering my studies after my bond from this company, In sha Allah.
Work has been alot better now that I'm already comfortable with the kids and my colleagues. Nurin being nurin, my kids know how insane I can get. Well yes, seeing from this, y'all can tell how happy I am lately. Alhamdulillah!
I wish I can tell you more about my current updates but probably in the later part when everything is being finalised alright? Please stay with me people, don't go... :( Yes, I'm that desperate HAHAHA! Alternatively, I do update my Instagram quite often because that becomes a platform to my second blog. In sha Allah I'll update with y'all as much as possible. And to those who happens to dropby my 'Chatbox Me!', thank you so much for the compliments. Verily all praise belongs to Him, syukur Alhamdulillah! Wish I can know who you really are so I can thank you personally.
In the meantime, I wish y'all to attain His blessings and mercy in the light of Ramadhan. Ameen ya rabb.
Ok the only reason why I'm not updating my blog is because I broke my surface's charger (Do not, I REPEAT DO NOT ask me how). It's the only gadget I used to update my blog hence that huge gap from my current post to the last one.
Anyhoots, just a few updates from me. I'm left with another second half of the year til I finally graduate from school! If only I have that 'Applause' sign so y'all know when to give me your applause. Hahaha I'm kidding. Erm.... future plans remain vague to me but somehow I guess I'm furthering my studies after my bond from this company, In sha Allah.
Work has been alot better now that I'm already comfortable with the kids and my colleagues. Nurin being nurin, my kids know how insane I can get. Well yes, seeing from this, y'all can tell how happy I am lately. Alhamdulillah!
I wish I can tell you more about my current updates but probably in the later part when everything is being finalised alright? Please stay with me people, don't go... :( Yes, I'm that desperate HAHAHA! Alternatively, I do update my Instagram quite often because that becomes a platform to my second blog. In sha Allah I'll update with y'all as much as possible. And to those who happens to dropby my 'Chatbox Me!', thank you so much for the compliments. Verily all praise belongs to Him, syukur Alhamdulillah! Wish I can know who you really are so I can thank you personally.
In the meantime, I wish y'all to attain His blessings and mercy in the light of Ramadhan. Ameen ya rabb.
Friday, 27 May 2016
Sunday, 8 May 2016
Verily, with hardship comes ease.
And that has always been my philosophy in life. So it's okay for me to go through what I'm going through right now, because I know these are all a test from Him. Allahu Akbar! In Sha Allah, rewards will come our way. Ameen Ya Rabb.
Friday, 15 April 2016
Bismillah
Bismillah in an A5
Bismillah in a shape of a sword
I have learnt to accept that there are my plans, and also Allah's plans for me. My plans are according to my wishes and His are according to His infinite wisdom. I need to trust Allah with all my heart and remember that He knows what is best for me. Always.
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